Manners DEFINITIONS AND ETHICS
CourtesyBased on Student Dictionary Manners is manners yg yg fine or good behavior. Meanwhile,
the House Dictionary 3rd Edition and 4th Edition also defines behavior
and manners as well-refined our words (polite), courtesy, self-refined
manners, politeness or how a person behaves in a certain situation,
manners and behavior , knowledge about good bad for human behavior. Additionally
manners are also defined as something that is attributed to a
commendable thing either from a word or deed (Faisal Ahmad Shah &
Saleha Mohd Nor pious). Referring to Masnizah Mohd (2005), manners are manners.
EthicsAccording
to the House Dictionary third edition and the fourth is the knowledge
related to ethical moral principles or moral, morality (or moral) or
moral values turned holding an individual or a group (association,
occupation, etc.) . Word
ethics is derived from the English "Ethic" and the Greek "Ethos" which
means the values or things associated with attitudes that determine
the behavior of a class. Gluck (1986) defines ethics as the study of the nature of moral philosophy. In
addition it can also be summed up as behavior and moral conduct
expected to be followed by human beings while knowledge of ethics is a
discipline that studies the moral, morality, morals and methods of human
action and right conduct (Zawiyah, 2002). According
to Sidi Gazalba (Masnizah Mohd, 2005), ethics is a theory of human
behavior that is seen in terms of good and bad and as far as where do
you get ditentuka by reason.
Compare and contrast the Manners BETWEEN AND ETHICS
CourtesyIbn 'Abd-Rabbih (Rosenthal, 1992) maintained that the whole chivalry encompass all aspects of human behavior. Concept,
associating with the overall behavior of manners, deeds and actions of
human behavior that is appropriate based on the knowledge of the true
position at the heart of all knowledge and existence.Manners
has some key features of which is, chivalry is a reflection on justice,
based on the wisdom of which put knowledge as high priority, to focus
on the spiritual aspects and human aqliah, apply process called ta'dib
manners or education and manners ultimate goal is to acquire moral
excellence ( Ahmad Fauzi bin Mohamed, _____).While
the purpose of manners is to produce good human and capable of
abstaining from physical and material blessings and showing emotional
stability on lineament happy and sad and all other events and also is in
a situation that is not disturbed and inactive except when reason and thoughts indicate a desire or need for action (Plato in Rosenthal, 1992).Dr. Haji
Abdullah Siddik (1980) have linked manners as a policy associate
('Ahkam al-Shariati'), one of the guidelines that are very important in
human life in which they serve as a guide for parents, teachers,
leaders, society and the individual itself in the shape of a human life colors. In
addition, it is also important for being a bad role in evaluating and
considerate person to become human good will be rewarded in this world
and in the hereafter.
EthicsEthics
is a branch of philosophy that defines right or wrong, especially in a
moral dilemma, studying human actions, whether good or bad, right or
wrong. Something unethical is not necessarily wrong. Right or wrong depends on the individuals, communities, organizations and countries. Ethics coverage is wider than the analyzes of what is right and wrong as is often assumed. Ethics review the facts, analyze and summarize what behaviors are actually. A
key aspect of ethics is the "good life", the life worth or
unsatisfactory, which is considered more important than moral behavior
by many philosophers.From persepktif Islam, ethics refers to the correct behavior based on the Quran and the fear of God.Ethical Theory Islam and the West are different. By using the theory of Western Ethics sense to analyze ethical problems. What is appropriate in terms of the brain is received, and not suitable for this reason are not acceptable. While
the goal of Islamic ethics is that human beings have good behavior in
accordance with the teachings of Islam in order to achieve the pleasure
of Allah. Dikumukakan
by Islamic methods to determine good ethics is not limited to the
intellect alone but should be integrated with what has been communicated
by revelation.
Comparison Between Manners & Etiquette1. Manners
are not only concerned with human relationships but also with God
(Allah), while ethics is concerned with human relations only.2. Manners
based on the Qur'an and hadith scholars messenger and examples from the
Salaf and the moral sentiments of the community is based.3. Good manners are an absolute value while ethics are not absolute values, changing according to the customs of a society.4. Manners goal is to please Allah but the goal of human ethics alone.5. Manners
are created by God then its perfect to be human while holding ethics
created by humans with the capacity vulnerable to criticism.6. Manners
is a system that evaluates the action outer and inner man while ethics
is a system of evaluating human actions only apparent.7. Manners in general is a system or human behavior that uses the basic revelation or Islamic law. While the meaning of ethics is a system of human behavior that apart from revelation, he said that McCabe philosophy.
DALIIL HADITH & QURAN
Manners Eat And Drink
Good food is very important in developing character and the human person. Thus
Islam has recommended a number of manners should be adopted, which is
striving choose kosher food, as God intended to eat & drink to be an
act of worship, wash hands before and after meals, feel satisfied and
willing with food and drinks available and not occasionally
denigrate times, not to eat while leaning or lying, starting and ending
Bismillah Alhamdulillah, eat with your right hand and take the closest
food first, not blowing hot food as well as not breathe while sipping
drinks, eating properly, and not excessive and more. There are a number of hadith and Quranic verses which state the matters related to eating and drinking manners, among which are:
Narrated by Abdullah Ibn 'Abbas: Allah says in Hadith Qudsi ...
لم يلتحف العباد بلحاف ابلغ عندي من قلة الطعم"There is no stronger protection of servants except menyedikitkan eat"
Tarmizi Hadith narrated: The Prophet said ...
ما ملا ابن آدم وعاء شرا من بطنه بحسب ابن آدم لقيمات يقمن صلبه فاذا كان لا محالة فاعلا فثلث لطعامه وثلث لشرابه وثلث لنغسه"Not
a single platform is occupied by the children of Adam is worse than his
stomach, sufficient is some feed, to strengthen his spine in order to
erect. When the inevitable, let 1/3 food, 1/3 longer to drink and 1/3 more to his heart "
Surah Al-A'raf: verse 31
يا بني آدم خذوا زينتكم عند كل مسجد وكلوا واشربوا ولا تسرفوا إنه لا يحب المسرفين"O children of Adam! Wear nice clothes at all (enter) mosque, eat and drink, but not excessively. Truly, Allah likes not excessive "
Surah Al-Baqarah verse 172
يا أيها الذين آمنوا كلوا من طيبات ما رزقناكم واشكروا لله إن كنتم إياه تعبدون"O ye who believe! Eat of the good things which We have provided you, and render thanks to Allah if you worship Him "
Manners Against Neighbor
According to the Dictionary of students, neighbors are staying near to the dispatcher own home, the side or neighbors. Practice
manners towards neighbors is highly demanded and set between adabnya
Manners is respect the neighbors and do good against him, preserve their
rights after they die, do not harass them, inviting towards good by
giving good advice, give food, rejoice with their joy, patience and sincerity. Some of the hadiths and verses of the Quran that contains the commands on the ethics of neighbors is:
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of ...
عن
أبي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلعم من كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الأخر فليقل
خيرا أو ليصمت, و من كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الأخر فليكرم جاره, و من كان
يؤمن بالله واليوم الأخر فليكرم ضيفه"Whoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day should either speak good or keep
quiet, and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show
hospitality to his neighbor. He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guests "
Anas bin Malik: The Prophet of Allah has said ...
عن أنس بن مالك قال قال رسول الله صلعم لا يؤمن أحدكم حتى يحب لأخيه أو قال لجاره ما يحب لنفسه"No one's perfect faith until he loves his brother or for his neighbor Before she loves, as he loves himself"
Surat an-Nisa ': verse 36
واعبدوا
الله ولا تشركوا به شيئا وبالوالدين إحسانا وبذي القربى واليتامى
والمساكين والجار ذي القربى والجار الجنب والصاحب بالجنب وابن السبيل وما
ملكت أيمانكم إن الله لا يحب من كان مختالا فخورا"And serve Allah and do not associate him with anything. And
do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the poor, neighbors close and
far neighbors, colleague, ibn holy and those whom your right hands
possess. Truly Allah loves not the arrogant and self pride "
Surah Yusuf: verse 59
ولما جهزهم بجهازهم قال ائتوني بأخ لكم من أبيكم ألا ترون أني أوفي الكيل وأنا خيرالمنزلين"And
when he (Joseph) prepare food for them, he said," Bring me a seayah
with your brother (brother), do not you see that I pay out full measure,
and I was the best reception? "
Speaking Manners
Prophet once said, "Do not talk more than the remembrance of Allah. Indeed,
with much talk will harden the heart and when his heart was hard then
it would be further away from God ". Among the ethics of talk is talk
with a clear tone without doubt, talk with eye contact, do not talk
while eating and not talking about nasty
things while someone is eating, not talking about something that is
disappointing to someone who is sick, never imitate the speech of the
ignorant, not gossiping or slandering, call someone by the name he likes
and does not talk about the unknown. Manners Manners are stout emphasized in the hadith and Quranic verses, such as:
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah has said ...
عن ابي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلعم آية المنافق ثلاث إذا حدث كذب وإذا وعد أخلف وإذا اؤتمن خان"The
signs of a hypocrite are three things, namely when talking he lied,
when he broke promises and when given the trust he betrayed"
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of ...
عن أبي هريرة قال قال رسول الله صلعم من أتى هذا البيت فلم يرفث ولم يفسق رجع كما ولدته أمه"Anyone
who comes to this House, and not talk to talk indecently nor did he act
wickedly, then he will come back as when she was born by her mother"Surah Al-clans: verse 32
يا نساء النبي لستن كأحد من النساء إن اتقيتن فلا تخضعن بالقول فيطمع الذي في قلبه مرض وقلن قولا معروفا"O wives of the Prophet! You do not like other women, if you fear. Therefore,
do not give in (weakened voice soften) in speaking to rise desires of
those who have disease in their hearts, and speak good words "
Surah Al-Hujurat: v. 2
يا أيها الذين آمنوا لا ترفعوا أصواتكم فوق صوت النبي ولا تجهروا له بالقول كجهر بعضكم لبعض أن تحبط أعمالكم وأنتم لا تشعرون"O ye who believe! Do
not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet, nor speak aloud
to him as strongly (voice) on the other part of you, will (reward) all
Thy soul can be erased while you do not realize "
Claiming Knowledge Manners
Islam highly emphasizes knowledge in life and learned man raised in rank by Allah. However, knowledge is very important blessings that will be beneficial to humans. Among the ways to get the blessings of knowledge is to adopt the norms of good. Among
them is the intention sincerely for Allah intends to remove the
ignorance of self and others, intend to defend the tenets, always an
open mind in accepting knowledge as well as the opinions of people,
practice knowledge acquired, menghorami teachers and scholars, seek
permission from the knowledge available and always focus on and select the appropriate time and place to study. Among the things RELATED studying manners are:'Abdullah bin Mas'ud reported: The Messenger of ...
عبد
الله بن مسعود يقولا قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لا حسد إلا في
اثنتين رجل آتاه الله مالا فسلطه على هلكته في الحق ورجل آتاه الله حكمة
فهو يقضي بها ويعلمها"Can not envy except in two cases: one who possessed the wealth, but he uses them to business permission (good). Also someone who is given the knowledge of God and he exploit it (with permission) and teach it to others "
R.a Ibn Umar: The Prophet s.a.w said ...
عن
حمزة بن عبد الله بن عمر بن الخاطاب عن أبيه عن رسول الله عليه السلم قال
بينا أنا نائم إذ رأيت قدحا أتيت به فيه لبن فشربت منه حتى إني لأرى الري
يجري في أظفاري ثم أعطيت فضلي عمر بن الخطاب قالوا
فما أولت ذلك يا رسول الله قال العلم و حدتناه قتيبة بن سعيد حدتنا ليت عن
عقيل ح و حدتنل الحلواني و عبد بن حميد كلا هما عن يعقوب بن إبراهيم سعد
حدتنا أبي عن صالح بإسناد يونس نحو حديته"While I was asleep I saw a bag of milk being presented to me. I drink until I found his essence into my nails, then I give my surplus to 'Umar bin Al-Khattab. They said: O Messenger of Allah! How do you about the dream interpretation. S.a.w Prophet said: That is knowledge "
Surah At-Tawbah: 112 verses
التائبون العابدون الحامدون السائحون الراكعون الساجدون الآمرون بالمعروف والناهون عن المنكر والحافظون لحدود الله وبشر المؤمنين"They
are those who repent, worship, and praise (Him), travel (by science and
religion), bowing, prostrating, enjoin what is right, and forbidding
what is wrong and who keep the commandments of God. And give glad tidings to the believers "
Surat an-Nisa ': 162 verses
لكن
الراسخون في العلم منهم والمؤمنون يؤمنون بما أنزل إليك وما أنزل من قبلك
والمقيمين الصلاة والمؤتون الزكاة والمؤمنون بالله واليوم الآخر أولئك
سنؤتيهم أجرا عظيما"But
the people who deep knowledge of them, and those who believe in (the
Quran) which was revealed unto thee (Muhammad), and to (the books) sent
down before you, so do those who perform the prayers and pay charity and believe in Allah and the Last Day. To them we will give a great reward "
Manners Before And After Waking From Sleep
Every human behavior must be civilized and orderly, as well as sleep. Among
the norms of sleep is to pack a bed or bed before sleep, sleep read
prayers, performing ablution and sleep on his right side, do not eat too
much before going to sleep, do not sleep in your belly, wash waking
from sleep and wash up after waking up. This is stated in the hadith and the many verses of the Quran.
Ibn 'Abbas r.a:
عن ابن عباس أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قام من الليل فقضى حاجته ثم غسل وجهه ويديه ثم نام"One night the Prophet got up from sleep and defecate. He then washed his face and hands, then sleep again "Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of ...
عن
أبي هريرة أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إذا أوى أحدكم إلى فراشه
فليأخذ داخلة إزاره فلينفض بها فراشه وليسم الله فإنه لا يعلم ما خلفه بعده
على فراشه فإذا أراد أن يضطجع فليضطجع على شقه
الأيمن وليقل سبحانك اللهم ربي بك وضعت جنبي وبك أرفعه إن أمسكت نفسي
فاغفر لها وإن أرسلتها فاحفظها بما تحفظ به عبادك الصالحين و حدثنا أبو
كريب حدثنا عبدة عن عبيد الله بن عمر بهذا الإسناد وقال ثم ليقل باسمك ربي وضعت جنبي فإن أحييت نفسي فارحمهاWhen
people want to sleep, he should conclude the end of last separation
removes dust that is then read: بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم because he does
not know what will happen in his bed after that. When he wanted to lie down, let him lie down on his right side. Then pray:سبحانك اللهم رب بك وضعت جنبي وبك أرفعه إن أمسكت نفسي فاغفر لها وإن أرسلتها فاحفظها بما تحفظ به عبادك الصالحينSura Az-Zaariyaat: v. 17
كانوا قليلا من الليل ما يهجعون"They used to sleep but little at night"
Surah An-Nabaa ': v. 9
وجعلنا نومكم سباتا"And We made your sleep for rest"
STORY OF EXEMPLARY
Love A Child (Adab Against Parent)
Many have received him and profess the religion brought by the Prophet of Islam. But the heart of Quraysh leaders and followers are still closed and hard like rocks of the ocean floor. They remain stubbornly defending a bad faith of their ancestors' legacy. With all the energy and force, they still defend it. That's what was happening at the time when it was emerging Islam brought by the ProphetAmong the chiefs of the Quraish there must a man named Hussain. Leadership qualities, how leadership, personal character and highly esteemed. He is highly respected. The nobles of Quraish thought that he is the most qualified to suppress all opposition to their ancestral beliefs. He hung on hoping to contain the teachings of Prophet Hussainlah defenders of their faith.Hussain has a son named Imran. But Imran has expressed his faith and became a Muslim. In his heart there was faith and piety. Imran had converted to Islam. Islam together ith Prophet s.a.w. He often sat and listened to lectures Prophet His heart melts often hear about faith, heaven, hell, and the afterlife realm forgot. His heart loves Islam. But there are at times she remember her father's fate. And certainly there is clear water down from the petals maatnya. Then his heart will pray with the hope that Allah swt opens his heart to Islam. "O Allah, You decreed I know you. How good and how lucky I am. But my father Hussain still in disbelief. Would not it be nice assuming increased son Imran Hussain join and experience the beauty of faith and Islam? ". Such terlancar every prayer time in her mouth. Unfailing and not be weary Imran expect spreads out his hands full. May God open your heart to accept Islam Hussain father.One day garden tamarnya Hussain idly watching, came several leaders of Quraish. Imagine their faces somber and anxiety. Like some disturbing them. one of them said, "O Hussain, our arrival was indeed carry a very heavy question. Was not able to bear and we were unable to resolve. But we still hope that you can do something in order to allay our fears. "Hussain welcoming words with a smile. "O my friends, what's the point if I smile my friends all wistful. Tell me what's bothering you all the peace of mind. I just serve the religion of Quraish who believed, "Hussain soft-spoken. "That is what we expect Hussain! Forever
you upright as our defenders and defend religious affiliations of the
Quraysh. "People that carve relieved smile and continued," you should
know about Muhammad and his new religion he brought. Many of the residents who responded to Mecca preaching and calling. More and more followers. Too rigid and strong love. always helping each other, helping each other, mutual sacrifice their own. This situation is so dangerous to our beliefs. God we ever left. Muhammad's teachings deny the superiority of our God. Dikatanya God we are not intelligent and can not do anything.Hussain silent menggundahkan think the heart of the matter sahaatnya it. "I understand," said Hussain. "So what?" Slit one of the dignitaries of Quraysh. "We do not intend to submit to the state alone. There should be efforts to find a point solution to this difficult question indeed. Muhammad's preaching affair like no miracles themselves. It is very difficult broken. Like strong currents and rapids. Do
not suppose that means aggression, persecution against Muhammad.
"Connect them again," Surely the solution at the end of a sword improper
way. There should be no blood spilled on earth this city. We intend that you discuss in good denga Muhammad. Advise her to stop just preaching it. Stop lashing against our God. "Hussain was quiet. Then say, "Why do not I own only to be menghadapunya?" Expressed doubts immediately. "No, we'll go along with you. But you went to see Muhammad alone and we wait outside, "explained the Quraish. Hussain Mengertilah the point at issue. In his heart infusion not the slightest fear and fear of Muhammad and his followers. Although his son Imran with Messenger but it will still be there too. "Okay. Do not waste more time. Let's go there. "They would walk to get to the Messenger of Allah gathered together with a friend. Kuncu and its supporters living outside is Hussain in with full confidence. The most surprised person is Imran. His heart was full of questions. "It must be what my dad here? So bravely came and met Prophet Why? ". The questions are at the heart of play Imran. Imran mind seeing increased deadlocked Prophet ordered his companions to take the place of Hussain, his father. Face Prophet s.a.w. beaming. Indirectly reflected anger and hate.Hussain was really impressed to see character of the Messenger accept and respect him as a guest-general. He did not think that high character of the Messenger Hussain dwelt confronted with Mohammed Hussain and said, "We have often heard you disapprove of our Lord." Allah's Messenger silence. Long he thought of good discretion order that the heart of unspoilt nenti Hussain. Rsulullah then asked, "How much of God do you worship?". Questions Prophet was so shocking Hussain. But he answered that question also. "Seven of the earth and of the sky." He raised the question again. "When you come into any danger, who you hang your hopes, so kamuharap who can help you?". Hussain
replied, "God is in the heavens." Prophet asked, "In the past when
stricken riches perish, to whom do you expect that to defend?". Hussain replied, "God in heaven."Smiling Prophet continued, "you sought help only in one only of God in heaven. But why did you associate it with tuuh God in the earth. " Brief speech from the Prophet. Hussain absolutely transfixed and stunned. Tongue felt numb. Wet sweat from his forehead. Fools die for reaching any other argument. Visible annoyance in his eyes and in his face clouded. It is immediately detected by the Prophet. He said, "Come in Islam. Undoubtedly, prosperous life. "Final talk was really knocking on the door Hussain heart. In his heart began to feel the truth of Allah.Hussain hearts turn into space. Then, in the fall of tears, the tears and sedannya, Kalima arising from the lips of Hussain. Imran who was there was very pleasantly overwhelmed. Old body didakapnya full neatly and tightly. Word
Alhamdulillah not dashed out from the heart and lips thanks to God who
has opened the hearts of the father to embrace Islam holy.
Trust A Friend (Adab Against Friend)There are two men from among the Companions of the Prophet self mutual good friends visiting each other each. They are Sha'b bin Auf bin Malik Jastamah and. "My brother, those of us who went (died) in advance, should visit the visiting each other." Says Auf Sha'b to in a day. "Yes, so?" Asked Auf. "Yes." Replied Sha'b.Destined God, Sha'b died first. On one night saw Sha'b Auf came to visit. "Thou, O my brother?" Asked Auf. "Yes." Replied Sha'b. "How are you?". "I seek forgiveness after getting misfortune." When Auf look at Sha'b neck, she saw a black mark on it. "What on earth is a black mark on your neck?" Asked Auf. "This is the result of ten dinars which I borrowed from a Jew, so please make clear this debt. Behold, O my brothers, that none of the incidents happened in my family, all also occurred after death. Even for a cat that matipun accountable as well. Remember my dear friends, that my daughter who died six days ago, should you give a good lesson and meaning for him. "The conversation between the two men who are friends to cease because Auf up from sleep. He realized that all the dimimpikannya was a lesson and a reminder for him.
Sunday, 2 December 2012
learn manners
Manners Learn By Imam Ghazali
1 - Advance greetings to teachers kissing and shaking hands as a sign of honor - per gender.
2 - Do not talk in front of many teachers.
3 - Do not talk if not asked.
4 - Do not ask but if directed by the teacher.
5 - Do not deny the words of the teacher.
6 - Do not calumniate other students.
7 - Do not whisper in front of the teacher.
8 - Do not turn left and right.
9 - Do not ask the teacher exhaustion.
10 - Stand when the teacher got up (when the teacher in and out).
11 - Listen to the humble knowledge conveyed even repeated 1000 times.
12 - Refer teachers to choose science.
13 - Do not sit where the teacher.
14 - Do not walk in front of the teacher except in emergency.
15 - Do not hit the door over and over again to find out teachers.
16 - Always get her contentment and anger away.
17 - Honored the children of teachers.
18 - Frequent contact with the teacher.
19 - Avoid visiting teachers no more than 40 days. This can reduce the blessing of knowledge.
20 - Always pray for teachers after each prayer five times.
Hopefully it will be useful and can be practiced by the students.
1 - Advance greetings to teachers kissing and shaking hands as a sign of honor - per gender.
2 - Do not talk in front of many teachers.
3 - Do not talk if not asked.
4 - Do not ask but if directed by the teacher.
5 - Do not deny the words of the teacher.
6 - Do not calumniate other students.
7 - Do not whisper in front of the teacher.
8 - Do not turn left and right.
9 - Do not ask the teacher exhaustion.
10 - Stand when the teacher got up (when the teacher in and out).
11 - Listen to the humble knowledge conveyed even repeated 1000 times.
12 - Refer teachers to choose science.
13 - Do not sit where the teacher.
14 - Do not walk in front of the teacher except in emergency.
15 - Do not hit the door over and over again to find out teachers.
16 - Always get her contentment and anger away.
17 - Honored the children of teachers.
18 - Frequent contact with the teacher.
19 - Avoid visiting teachers no more than 40 days. This can reduce the blessing of knowledge.
20 - Always pray for teachers after each prayer five times.
Hopefully it will be useful and can be practiced by the students.
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